I think you should fold the first hand to the flop bet. There are many better spots than this to get your money in. In the absence of a specific read on this player that is a total goon who will bet top pair or a tiny straight draw (i.e. he'll be betting just about EVERY hand), what are the possible holdings he could be betting here? Two pair (i.e. it's a tie!), a big straight wrap (perhaps with a pair or two) and he's somewhere around evens or, at worst, a set, with you drawing virtually dead. Once someone leads out in PLO high for the size of the pot, two pair is not a hand you want to get tied to. In every possible situation here, unless he's an utter goon (and I do agree there are many of them at Party 25PLO!), he must either be around evens, tied with you, or way ahead.
A call would, if anything, be worse than raising. You get no information, and may be facing another pot sized bet on the turn with a very weak and vulnerable hand. Two pair is not much in PLO. If you can put the first bet in here, you definitely should. Once someone else shows aggressive interest in the hand, you have to assume you're probably behind. If you are a new PLO high player, you really need to get into the mindset that it's not quite like holdem - two pair is often ahead, and at party 25 it will win some pots for you, but it's nowhere NEAR the monster it is in NL. Overplaying 2 pair will get you caned in this game.
On the turn the call is correct. You only need about 10 or 11 clean outs to make this call reasonable, and I would be surprised if you don't have at least that. I would have the guy on a set after the flop, or perhaps a turned straight, and either way your flush outs are likely to be clean, with either a couple of straight outs or 4-6 boat outs to take it on the river.
Hand number 2 is a very typical PLO high situation. Your thought process and play was pretty much on the ball, though your river call was a bit loose. There're worse errors to make, I guess he could always have had two pair or a lower set on the flop and played as poorly as you'd expect a party 25PLO player to, in which case calling him down wouldnt have been terrible. Against anyone half-decent I would be giving up on this hand once the straight hits. Your opponent kindly gave you odds to draw to the river, though, which is really all you can ask
. Against a decent player, he would have you on a set or a similar straight when the turn hits, and then realise you had a set if you called a turn raise against his straight. You would not have implied odds, therefore, to call a big turn bet and hope for a payoff on a board pair. Against this guy, I'm pretty sure he'd call a milking bet on the river if you pair up, and he's (almost) offering you odds to play on anyway. Don't forget if he has the straight, you likely have 9 or 10 clean outs with 40 cards unaccounted for, giving you about 3-1 odds to make your hand. You stated in your post you're getting 4:1 odds; you're actually only getting 3-1, but thats about what you need. If he calls anything on the river, which he most likely will, you are correct to call him down.
Anyways, hope this helps!
Monk
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