NEWSFLASH!!!!

Just in.....you cant have a good healthy relationship without the sex. Either find out if this girl is stringing you along because she can and beleive me some girls love doing this to guys.

You are putting this girl on a pedestal and making it like your goal to get her once you do this it is definetely not healthy. Just be yourself, do your thing and the right girl will come along just think to yourself if she doesnt wanna me be with then its her loss. Sounds arrogant but it works.

Everyone's taking my "no sex" thing too far. Listen... I KNOW Allison likes sex because she has friggin DIRECTLY TOLD ME! If we were in a relationship, I KNOW we would have a LOT of sex. Even if we're not in a relationship, I might get some action. All I have to do is make a move at the right time.

I'm not saying Allison is the only girl for me or anything. I'm just saying I do like her a lot more than any other girl I've met in a while, and I don't feel this way about other girls right now. If things don't work out with Allison, I'll be upset for a while, but I'll manage.

Now I have a new dilemma: Rachel just called me. Tomorrow afternoon I have a valentine's date with her. Where? MY APARTMENT! Originally I just asked her to join me over the weekend at my friend's party, but she's busy this weekend. So then she said, "How about lunch tuesday around 2?". It's very odd she didn't say "tomorrow" or "Valentine's Day", but I think this is all implied. I mean we've had two dates already. This will be our third one.

Right... so the dilemma? I'm supposed to call Allison later tonight to discuss "us". But now I have a date with Rachel again! AGHH!! Like I would ever turn down a date on VALENTINE'S DAY with Rachel? Come on! This is f*cking glorious!

My neighbor tells me I should still call Allison since I like her more. If she really isn't interested in me, then I'll not have to worry about it anymore and enjoy the relationship with Rachel. If Allison likes me too, which I think is a "better than average chance", then I have a problem: Allison probably would want to spend valentine's day with me. I have no plausible response to that.

Man, keeping my options open and seeing all these girls sure get complicated.

I think it's me who has been removed from the dating scene for too long. Allow me to elaborate. Last time I had an actual girlfriend was two falls ago. We never dated, we hung out, connected really well, saw eachother a lot the next couple days, then I asked her about a serious relationship.

You're right, I'm probably freaking out too much about this. I don't doubt that. The consensus between my friends is to call Allison now, if she's interested, then I call off the date with Rachel. Here, I'm getting "go with both of them". What I've been doing with Rachel and Allison the past few weeks have been dating more or less. The way I treat them, how they respond, and so on. That's fine, that's what I meant by keeping my options open. But now it's quite apparent the next meeting will be when we decide whether to progress into a full blown relationship or not.

Thanks to everyone giving serious responses here. The non-serious ones are amusing too, but it's always good to have some serious ones mixed in there.

and why aren't you playing poker any more?